This question would just popped out from my mind so often times and giving me lots of sleepless nights. I admit it, whenever I am asked ‘what do I want to do?’, I struggle for answers.Social cognitive views of learning and more often than not, I really don’t have a clue. I have a job, I’m in a relationship, I have friends, family, but am i already okay? I know very well that goals will keep you going with direction.Social cognitive views of learning with knowing your directions, you feel positive, worthy, and moving forward. What if you don’t have one? You feel like a zombie, a walking dead, or someone stuck on a boat without oars, it gets you nowhere.Social cognitive views of learning

Same goes to a relationship without goals. You both will be stucked and stagnant and will keep on doing routines that aren’t working at all, sure slowly decays relationship’s purpose, meaning and worth.Social cognitive views of learning well, it makes me think that i am no longer a believer of long-term relationship, that it just doesn’t work all the time. If you intend to have one, make sure both of you to have goals and are working to make them happen.Social cognitive views of learning it’s a two-way role. At least, give yourselves a timeline, until when are you going to be just boyfriend/girlfriend. We need to step up and move forward, because at the end of the day it is not just about you and him anymore but “us” for a lifetime.Social cognitive views of learning

So, you better make up and compose your mind, because settling for okay jobs just to pay bills, okay relationships just to fill in the need, okay life just to feel comfortable, isn’t thrilling, isn’t life-changing. Time will come that you need to stop working on careers you don’t really love, or doing patterns that aren’t helpful or relationship that isn’t progressing anymore.Social cognitive views of learning time is of the essence and life is short. Wasting time and energy on things, activities or person you are not passionate about is tiring and dreary.Social cognitive views of learning the next time you wake up in the morning, get up with someone who not just you love but plans a future for both of you, and most of all, wake up with goals to achieve.Social cognitive views of learning chase that dream job, attend dream concerts, see the world, travel more, meet more people, work on your passions, keep learning and growing, climb and step up, get out of that stagnant relationship.Social cognitive views of learning don’t settle for less because you only deserve the best. Are you settling for an okay?…………………………….

You might disagree, but for me prof. Snape has one of the best and remarkable characters in the series.Social cognitive views of learning if you have read the books, the intense of his character will give you thinking of, he is an asshole who just simply hates the main character.Social cognitive views of learning you barely see him smiling and always have that straight looking face. And yet people easily judged him, including harry himself. Perhaps it shows that it is a human nature to readily find negative to someone more than the good side.Social cognitive views of learning of course, not for albus dumbledore who was known for his kindness and understanding heart. As you go through his character, you will be thrilled and feel sorry at the same time.Social cognitive views of learning who knew that a severus snape was a smart loving boy, a good friend, who silently cared and loved harry’s mother (lily potter), who knew that he can also love unconditionally. Snape being a loner and a half-blood son of a muggle, he was sometimes been bullied by james potter and sirius, perhaps caused him to be hostile to harry.Social cognitive views of learning if not because of the pensieve, harry will never understand him more. Nevertheless, he tried to move on from his painful past and had a change of heart.Social cognitive views of learning though half of him being cold to harry was true, he genuinely protected him and was the most loyal and pure to his vows. He was enigmatic. Deep and cold yet was one of the bravest and dumbledore’s most trusted friend, trusted i say, it was because he carried the hardest and confidential part of dumbledore’s plan.Social cognitive views of learning after albus, he has the most extreme sacrifices, notably when he has to kill his most trusted and only friend dumbledore. He was after all, harry’s secret hero, who saved him countless times and who protected him the entire time from voldemort.Social cognitive views of learning he who people hated, judged, bullied and cursed, I see him as the strongest character in the story. Despite of all the pains, he never has friends to run to like harry did, he only has dumbledore and himself and yet he endured it and died as a hero. I myself didn’t like snape, but i cried when his role ended, because i knew there was more of him(sounds silly I know) I was touched and moved by his great resilience.Social cognitive views of learning

I believe that, there is always a good side in us. Snape’s character made me realize that heroes can be found in most unlikely person. Let’s try to be more understanding and less judging because we simply don’t know what that person is going through.Social cognitive views of learning your neighbor who has lots of piercings and tattoos or your loner, quiet classmate is actually a nature advocate, animal lover, a hero to his family, a bread winner, a loving father and husband, who knew.Social cognitive views of learning and if you feel like you are not good enough, don’t be, because like severus snape, you are a hidden hero of your own, please know there is always that goodness in you.Social cognitive views of learning

It was my first time to be away from home. When i started working abroad, the truth sinks in. It is will never be an easy step. Though I was with a close friend of mine and my boyfriend, being away from your family was the hardest part i guess, more than anything.Social cognitive views of learning lots of adjustments had occur. I, for instance has always been feeling low and started to get feeling lonely. Adding to the fact of gotten myself into a scam job, i was caught in the middle, its either i give up my job and leave or i will pursue it.Social cognitive views of learning of course, the latter happened, and me and him had arguments and another arguments start to dwell in the relationship. I’ve become irritated, pointless, disoriented, unfocused.Social cognitive views of learning it was for a month or so. Until one night, another argument, and i broke down. I suddenly missed back home, i suddenly felt alone, lonely, and felt like i can never be happy again.Social cognitive views of learning I felt i was trapped into something dreary, dark and endless whirl. He didn’t talk to me. Nobody talked to me, maybe because I don’t want either.Social cognitive views of learning I was crying an entire night, and decided not to go to work the day after. I felt so down. I didn’t eat the whole day and barely had water, didn’t shower, was just lying down,nap for a while, thinking, crying in my bed.Social cognitive views of learning I admit i do feel that loneliness sometimes, so it wasn’t a strange thing for me. But i always had my parents, who gets worried when i skipped meals and locked myself in the room, so the day won’t end without me being okay afterwards.Social cognitive views of learning hence, the situation was different,I didn’t had them, I felt alone and weak. It’s when a dark thought dwell in. I was rushed to the hospital.Social cognitive views of learning it was the most stupid decision I’ve ever made. When you don’t want to close your eyes but your body is giving up, when you know you were wrong and tried to be alive but felt like you were dying inside, and thought if only i could turn back the time.Social cognitive views of learning I thank god for this I considered a second life. And never felt glad and will be always grateful for having friends who truly care and for him who never left my side, who unconditionally loves me.Social cognitive views of learning I realized I never felt extremely loved like this and never appreciated my life more than before.

It’s disappointing that I have to encounter a dementor for me to realize that we only live once and we have to do it right.Social cognitive views of learning when you happened to stumble one, cast your powerful patronus, pray and pray, and don’t forget to find the light for there will always be one.Social cognitive views of learning talk and pray when you are down, or write a diary, that will be really helpful as well. It is normal to feel sad and alone, but I know depression is a sad truth and believe me it will not be an easy battle, so you must fight it back as harder as you could.Social cognitive views of learning there is always be that someone who genuinely loved you , you are not alone, trust me!